By Jessica Estrada | May 28, 2015 | Lifestyle
Thankfully, attending a wedding is a lot easier than planning one, but as a guest, you play an important part in making it a memorable day for the bride and groom. Below, six "I do" experts share a few tips on how to be the best wedding guest ever this summer.
“Be respectful and don't take photos during the couple's ceremony. They don't want their friends on their phones the whole time and also standing up and getting in the way of the photographer and videographer getting their shots. Also, some people don't want their photos on social media, so respecting them and using a private place to post images where all guests can see and share [that's not] public is a great option.”
"It doesn’t take much to be a good wedding guest—just RSVP on time and follow the instructions on the invite. But, to be a great wedding guest, there are three rules I always stick to: Dress sharp, but be careful not to steal the bridal party’s thunder. Mingle, take photo booth snapshots, chat up the bridal party, sample all the canapés, dance with as many aunties as you can, and enjoy yourself. Last but not least, find out exactly what the newlyweds want (like, really want), and make arrangements so they get exactly that. Whether it’s a trip to Istanbul, a new coffee machine, a Netflix subscription, or good ol’ cash—trust me, people love getting what they want."
“Don't ask the bride or groom if you can bring a guest to their wedding. If your invitation is addressed to you specifically, there is likely a reason they didn't add ‘and guest.’ Don't take it personally, there is likely a good explanation as to why you were invited solo. [Also,] knowing how many guests will be attending their big day is so important in the decision-making process, so send in your RSVP card on time. Don't make your friends chase after your response as they already have so many other things to attend to.”
“Paying attention to wedding attire is crucial. You don't want to be the wedding guest that shows up over- or under-dressed. Usually, the attire directive is written on the wedding invite. Follow these three easy rules to help plan your look: ‘Black tie’—tuxedo and gown, ‘formal’—suit with tie and dress (knee length or longer), and ‘casual’—suit or dress shirt (no tie) and a cocktail dress.”
“Try to avoid overwhelming the couple by inundating them with calls about the big day. It is more than likely that the couple spent a lot of time putting together their invitations and information cards, so be sure you carefully read all the information on those materials. [Also,] make sure you always check the way your invitation envelope was addressed. If it was not addressed to you and family or [you and] your children, save yourself the embarrassment of the couple having to let you know that children are not invited.”
6. Shareen Mitchell, Shareen Bridal Designer
“Show up early. Bring a gift from their registry. Dress to honor what is a sacred moment. Go out of your way to say hello to family members of the bride and groom, thanking them for a lovely event. Take time out to sit with grandmas and grandpas to honor them and to make them feel considered and included. When it is time to dance, get up and dance! Celebrate the couple with your joyfulness.”
PHOTOGRAPHY BY ELIZABETH MESSINA PHOTOGRAPHY (WEISS)